Something this seemingly elusive must be actively hiding from us; probably hiding in plain sight. In other words, hiding in the place we are least likely to look. As in: the very thing we believe is helping us find this answer is actually what is keeping us from it.
A vibrant and fully alive person is your natural state. That is the description of a state of being, not appearances or even performance. If you’re not experiencing that state now, it is only because something unnatural is going on in and around you.
Winning is not the goal of governing; providing an environment that nurtures our humanity is. That means those who believe in and practice democracy must graciously allow and even celebrate the opinions of others as much as we claim to celebrate democracy itself. That means, sometimes, not winning.