Pick any contributing factor to your quality of life: making money, eating right, raising great kids, exercise, relationships… all of it. At any moment in time, any recommendation for success will be both the best and the worst advice you’ve ever gotten. In other words, any given strategy will be embraced by roughly half of the people you know, and will be rejected as crap by the other half. Same goes for the so-called experts on the subject—including scientists; half of them will tell you it’s the holy grail of life, the other half says it will kill you immediately if not sooner.
How many times can you go through this scenario and not come out just a little jaded by it all. Whatever the answer, I’m guessing in your own experience you blew past that number a long time ago. Who can blame you for being a bit—or a lot—cynical. Not me.
“…any given type of exercise (is) being actively promoted by half of the fitness gurus on the Internet, and mocked by the other half.“
I was meeting with a guy recently about a media project and we started off the session with some small talk about our week during which he let me know that he hadn’t been feeling well lately. After a little prodding he admitted that he suffered from Crohn’s disease; a condition he had for over 40 years. It’s not important to this story that you know what Crohn’s disease is, but I was immediately anxious to tell him that I had some experience with his condition and that I knew of both the cause and cure for (or at least significant relief from) Crohn’s. But before I could tell him what I knew he continued on about his history with this ailment that included how tired he was of people telling him what he should do about it. He claims to have heard about everything ever conceivable plan to alleviate the symptoms of Crohn’s—none of which had worked for him, and that now he was just going to do his own thing because he couldn’t tolerate yet another well-meaning person emphatically offering up treatment advice that was “guaranteed” to cure him. Who could blame him. I’m just glad he let me know that before I launched into my own plan. Needless to say, I kept it to myself.
“What allows otherwise intelligent people to be mired in a sea of opinion with no real ‘truth test’ is a tragic lack of standards and a model for the goal.“
In my experience as a gym owner I was at least aware of—if not involved in—just about everything going on in the realm of fitness at any one time, and it seemed like any specific type of exercise was being actively promoted by half of the fitness gurus on the Internet, and mocked by the other half. Within days, or even hours, of recommending protocols to my staff and clients, they would show up with print-outs from the Internet posted by some fitness guru somewhere on the planet that contradicted what I was saying. I, of course, had a basis for my recommendations, and both sides could present more evidence for their position than you would ever care to read; contradictory, or course. Again, where’s the truth for the average person? Cynicism is a natural human response to these conditions for trainers and clients alike, and ultimately it led to people aligning themselves with the guru who came with the most professional titles or, more likely, whose personality they liked the most because that was all they had left to them as a basis for a decision. Sadly, the truth in all of it is lost… buried somewhere in all of this “evidence”. And cynicism reigns in this world, just like it does in whole scope of things that contribute to Quality Of Life. I get it.
What allows otherwise intelligent people to be mired in a sea of opinion with no real ‘truth test’ is a tragic lack of standards and a model for the goal. None of what I’ve described above would be happening if someone spelled out the goal of all of this quality of life work; a goal that is both understandable by the average 10-year-old, and that can be communicated in a couple of hours, not a couple of years. That has never happened in the history of mankind. That is exactly the mission that I have undertaken.
Your cynicism is understandable, but not constructive. It still results in sincere people being led astray from the real goal. Doing nothing will not end your suffering nor will it help you experience the joy your life was meant to provide. The answer already exists on this website, but there is much more on the way, including educational materials that will make you lie proof on any subject having to do with your quality of life. The end of your cynicism is in at hand.