There is no loftier goal that I can conceive of, from among all that are actually attainable by every person, than Quality Of Life. After all, it is the potential for the sum total of the experience of being human, lived to its highest possible level. Pretty heady stuff; but why let that keep us from going there if we can. Since it is the “ultimate goal”, it would seem to be important to understand it, if only as much as is necessary to actually achieve it.
The description “ultimate goal” is designed to indicate the goal that serves all other goals. But I realize that the phrase “Quality Of Life” may need some updating in your mind because this is not your father’s (non-capitalized) quality of life. This is not a new concept; just an old one that has never been given a name. So, the new version will sport capital letters simply to highlight that distinction.
You have likely heard “quality of life” used in the context of restoring some base level of physical comfort and/or function; such as when recovering from a serious injury. But it seems it is most-often used to describe symptom relief in the aged and/or infirmed. And in both cases it always refers to a purely physical quality. Please forget those meanings when you see the capitalized version; this is NOT the new meaning.
In this new context, Quality Of Life is the thing that every human seeks more of, and something that we already experience every moment of every day, and at every age. It is the answer to the question you’ll probably get several times today: “how are you doing?” We all want to answer with, “Fantastic. Couldn’t be better.” But the reality is that, for most of us, it could be better. What’s keeping us from that “fantastic” experience? That experience is only available when we recognize Quality Of Life as a real thing, and pursue it above all else. I guarantee that process will change the way you do things.
The new Quality Of Life then is the amalgam of the elements that makes up our personal experience: our mental state (happiness, if you will), our relationships, our energy level (vitality), openness to adventure, health, function, money, access to nature, and anything else that brings pleasure and excitement to your life. Are there any of those you’d be willing to sacrifice if you didn’t have to? And all contributors to your QOL are elements that any person can accomplish with no outside assistance; no coaches, no personal trainers, and most importantly, no doctors.
There is no higher calling in life than to live a life that leaves no regrets when it’s over. Everything about achieving a high Quality Of Life is directed toward the ability to die with no regrets. This is the how you know you’ve lived your life to its highest potential. It will take most of us a minute or 2 to fully comprehend the implications of that result. But it will take far less time to realize that, if we were to die today, there would probably be a regret or 2. When you do imagine the life you would have lived in order to have no regrets at its end, you will have just imagined a high Quality Of Life.
You’re already in pursuit of a better Quality Of Life—and have been your entire life. You just didn’t have a name for it. Plus, no one has ever told you with any clarity what the goal looked like, and you haven’t—until now—known the best way to get there.
This lack of clarity has opened the door for all manner of schemes to emerge—most with price tags hanging from their gilded edges—designed to show you the way. It wasn’t so much “the way” that was missing, it was simply your understanding of the goal.
The great news in this is that raising your Quality Of Life is not as complicated as we have been lead to believe. You don’t need to dice it up into little mentally digestible chunks to make it happen. In fact, breaking it up is actually destructive to the Goal. The actual goal called Quality Of Life, in a nutshell, is comprised of only 2 characteristics: mindset and movement. In other words, to be happy and active are indicators of a high Quality Of Life. There is no absolute, and we’re all just on the path somewhere, but we want to be moving up the path until the day we die. The way you know that you’re moving up the path is be every aware of the degree to which you are happy and active. Pretty simple, huh?
The only requirement is a willingness to accept a different and vastly improved “you”. And, there is time in your life for all of it; not just a few of the pieces.
Just stay with that as a concept; don’t try to analyze it or figure it out; those are triggers to activate your brain. Just recognize that your life is a quality that is always with us—to some degree, that we have the ability to improve on it with some gentle nurturing of ourselves, and that it is the ultimate goal of everything we are currently working for in our lives anyway. All of us. Everything.
Lots more to come on this, but now you have the framework for what we’re after. Please let me know in your Comments if I have been successful in communicating this concept to you, and if you have any questions about it.